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Originally Posted by Paracelsus
Please explain this remark. Should we canonize the parents of those poor kids then?
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No. Nor, however, should we minimize the children's suffering; it isn't their fault their parents didn't follow accepted medical procedures.
As many of you know, I came at adoption from an overlooked perspective. My daughter's mom and dad are wonderful parents--her dad's Fathers' Day card from me is going to be late this year, because I spaced on when Fathers' Day is again--and they did a wonderful thing by choosing to, well, help a woman who had inadvertantly produced a child she could not care for emotionally, financially, or physically. (The bipolar, which was untreated at the time, would have precluded that, I think.) My daughter is healthy and happy and would be spoiled if being spoiled were in her nature. As it is, she is merely very, very fortunate.
I understand the drive to have your own child. I still want to raise children of my own. Actually, I want it a great deal, though I know that it's going to have to wait--even leaving out certain practical aspects. However, I've never believed parents have the right to inflict suffering on their children. (Well, sort of--there are forms of punishment that the children perceive at the time as suffering but really aren't; that's okay.) Frankly, naming a child "Tryg" is suffering enough.