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Originally Posted by man on the moon
Whichever happens, they are likely to feel some guilt: that isn't your fault, nor is there anything you can do about it. It's just life. Continue to be friends and move on to other modes of social life you can both agree on and enjoy.
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I shouldn't say there is
nothing you can do; be their friend, talk them through it like you would any other dramatic life event, affirm their struggle and their decision should they choose to make one.
Don't expect to have to be a psychologist or counselor though, you aren't the cause (though you are a vehicle, and may be viewed as a cause for a while, try to avoid that mess) nor are you the out. There may also be some hesitancy based on "how do I tell my family/friends/church/etc without losing A)their respect for me, and B) that of my parents or anyone my choice my affect negatively in my church community?" There is not a whole lot you can do about that either, aside from expecting it first, and listening when it happens.
Anyway, hope this helps. Let me know if it's confusing, or if something needs more detail. I tried to put it all down so I don't have to make four posts about the same thing, I can spend that time on other ideas instead. But still...anyway. I'm out for now.
MOTM
*edit, Heh, just realized this string dates from March...good chance you're quite a way down the road with your friend by now. The title was on the second page in the forum, so I assumed it was recent. Sorry if it's too late! I almost deleted it, but reconsidered due to maybe it will help someone else having trouble with yec debates in general...hmm.