I understand the analogy is bad as it would never reach the speed of light, but we can speed it up enough to make a measurable change in the time difference between each timer, we do the same with atomic clocks already and gps would not work with out it.

So it is valid, ok maybe I get hung up on the speed of light as a term which I did not need to use

So then if we add a second pendulum but moving away from the first stationary pendulum as fast as physics allows the object to move, then not only do we change the space between each object we also change the position of each object in the general flow of space time relative to each other, what I am saying we can manipulate one part of space-time, the space aspect both in physical distance and distance in the flow of space-time but the unit of time measured by each object remains the same as in the speed of light which is the speed which everything travels through time .

So the fact the unit of time measured is always the same must mean is it a force that is uniform as in it effect all things of all sizes in the same way , and if space-time is classed a one thing then must it not govern even the quantum world ? That is why I cant get rid of the thought of another force of pure time that we are all attached to at a quantum level.

@Ken G
my head hurts trying to grasp all of what your saying it I get the general gist of it might take me a few days but I am sure I will have question about it