My Grandmother just passed away

[damienpaul]

a couple of hours ago - she is the 7th I have lost this year.

But she had a great life - damn I am going to miss her

[Vermonter]

I'm sorry man. :( I lost my grandmother last year around this time.

[Cylinder]

Sorry for your loss, dp. The only advice I can give is to not let yourself focus on the grief too much to forget to also pay respects to the long life she has lived and any good times that may have occurred on the way. Cry at the funeral and laugh at the wake.

I have a big family and have suffered some similar grief so if you need an ear...

[Big Brother Dunk]

Condolences to you and your family.

[The Supreme Canuck]

I'm terribly sorry for your loss, damienpaul.

[Serenitude]

I am sorry for the loss, and for the others you've had this year. We'll keep you in our thoughts, and hope you find peace.

[mickal555]

:(

I'm very sorry for your loss :(

[Jim]

My very sincere sympathies.

[Argos]

I used to be very linked to my Grandma. I can understand your feelings. My sincere condolences.

[farmerjumperdon]

Thoughts are with you today. I was very close to my Grandma too. She lived with us for several years and we were very close. (She taught me most of my gardening skills). What a great lady and a great life she had.

I'm sure you have many very fond memories of her that have shaped, and will continue to shape your life. That is how the wisdom of the ages gets passed, and how you can console the inevitable loss of people you love.

Crikey, getting a tear just thinking about it.

Hugs to you and your family.

[Swift]

I'm very sorry for your loss. You say the 7th you've lost this year; does that mean you've lost seven family members in a year - that is really tough. May you all find peace.

[LayMan]

I lost my grandparents too, my condolences... Guess they are now with their grandparents, who I never knew... At the very least, they no longer have to miss each other...

[crosscountry]

DP, I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I've lost grandparents, but not ones I was very close to. One grandmother still lives and I cherish her. She turned 82 this year.

Thoughts go out to your and your family.

[banquo's_bumble_puppy]

:sad:

sorry about your loss

[Moose]

Damienpaul, you have my condolences.

[damienpaul]

Thank you folks - it is a very hard time, but i am comforted as Grandma passed away from us in my Aunty's loving care (my Aunty is a legend to me) and she went back to join Grandfather (d. 1991), Aunty Jeanette (d. 1962) and Uncle Jim (d. March this year) - she never was and never will ever be alone.

Her funeral is going to be huge - a full Scottish funeral

[suntrack2]

Grandmother always give the contribution in telling fairy tells to her niece or the children in the home. she always gave her contribution in knitting the sweter to the pretty little babies in the home and one for herself. the jingle bell songs she accomplished to help in sleeping the childrens. Such things are applies with everyone's grandmother. Grandmother is always a great personality,

Words are not sufficient with me to express here, damien.

God will give a rest for their soul in paradise.

sunil

[Tim Thompson]

Always sad, but also always inevitable. My parents & grandparents all passed away many years ago. It was very hard then, but you do learn to live with it. Then again, doing my family genealogy, I accidently stumbled over a great aunt (my grandmother's sister) who is still alive and kicking. She lives in Florida, and in September celebrated birthday number 101. You never know.

[mugaliens]

I'm sorry to hear that. Never fun when loved ones move on.

[damienpaul]

Thank you - I am quite overwhelmed by the gestures of support and kindness in this thread - kind words are making this dark time more bearable

[closetgeek]

I too am sorry for you loss. You may be aware but you never fully realize how much figures as such, have molded who you are until they are gone. It is only then that you become so greatful for the time you spent with them. That is why we always seem to love people just a little more when they are gone. That is my belief anyway. It makes the memories of them so much more precious.

Thank you - I am quite overwhelmed by the gestures of support and kindness in this thread - kind words are making this dark time more bearable

[greenfeather]

Okay, I'll join in. My mom died in March of this year. She lived to a ripe old age, and was "ready to go". STILL... it is just a shock to lose your mom. She was there my whole life, and all of a sudden she's gone. (she did go suddenly.) Where did she go? It's a mystery. Just like when our cat died. Where do they go?????

And then my dad sold the family house, and the people who bought it are rip'n'strip people who gutted our precious family house that I grew up in & kept visiting all thru my adulthood, and put in fancy fixtures, and are trying to sell it again. I can't stand these house speculators who are pricing honest working folks out of housing.

So, my whole life went down a black hole this year. Why do you think I waste time on the internet?

[Mister Earl]

I knew a wise old soul when I was stationed out in San Diego. He was an elderly Korean man. He'd press uniforms and shine boots, and was better at it than anyone. He'd charge less than everyone else, and even when he was done (The boots would look like GLASS!) he'd point out some miniscule flaw only visable to him and would try to give you half the money back in recompense. We would never take it and he'd get fired up about it. Then when we tried to tip him, he'd REALLY get fired up! He was that dedicated to his work. As he, his wife, or one of his kids was in back getting our stuff on pickup, every once in a while he'd say some incredibly deep and thought provoking thing. I'll remember this one until the day I die:

"When you are born, everybody smiles while you cry. Live a good life, so that when you die, you're put into the ground with a smile on your face while everyone else cries."

He had a gift of completely stopping any and all conversation going on in the room with statements like that: Everyone would immediately go into deep thought mode, and he'd use the momentary silence to bustle about and get something done. Remarkable.

[Mister Earl]

But to be more on topic here, you have my condolences, damienpaul, and I am sorry for your loss.

[crosscountry]

I knew a wise old soul when I was stationed out in San Diego. He was an elderly Korean man. He'd press uniforms and shine boots, and was better at it than anyone. He'd charge less than everyone else, and even when he was done (The boots would look like GLASS!) he'd point out some miniscule flaw only visable to him and would try to give you half the money back in recompense. We would never take it and he'd get fired up about it. Then when we tried to tip him, he'd REALLY get fired up! He was that dedicated to his work. As he, his wife, or one of his kids was in back getting our stuff on pickup, every once in a while he'd say some incredibly deep and thought provoking thing. I'll remember this one until the day I die:

"When you are born, everybody smiles while you cry. Live a good life, so that when you die, you're put into the ground with a smile on your face while everyone else cries."

He had a gift of completely stopping any and all conversation going on in the room with statements like that: Everyone would immediately go into deep thought mode, and he'd use the momentary silence to bustle about and get something done. Remarkable.


very interesting indeed.

[greenfeather]

"When you are born, everybody smiles while you cry. Live a good life, so that when you die, you're put into the ground with a smile on your face while everyone else cries."

That is so precious, I'd like to use it as an email sig sometime. Who can I attribute it to?

[damienpaul]

I agree, that is a beautiful saying